Have you ever noticed that Muslim families tend to focus their efforts on the girls of the family, rather the boys? From my experience and observations, many Muslim families living in the West, as well as here in Saudi Arabia, ensure that their daughters wear the Islamic attire and are “proper,” while leaving their sons to manage themselves.
I know many families in the USA and Canada, whose daughters wear the hijab or niqab and behave according to Islamic etiquette, while their brothers have girlfriends and are more “open” (I will leave that definition for you).
Guys need just as much mentoring as the girls, actually I think they need even more, with all that they are bombarded with on T.V, Internet and the peer pressure they face at school. Why does society leave the guys to fend for themselves, while sheltering and nurturing the girls? People just assume that the male youth can take care of themselves and will grow into men. But unfortunately that is not always the case.
Both genders need equal efforts from their parents and society. Parents and society need to instill values, ethics and a sense of responsibility in both the male and female youth. If you leave out half of the population while sheltering the rest, what do expect? So if you see guys in their cars chasing around girls, or abusing drugs and/or alcohol, realize where the finger of fault should be pointed towards.
So I plead, please do not forget your sons, they need your guidance and wisdom just as much as your daughters. You do not want to see your daughters flourish, while your sons are lost. I have witnessed this too many times and cannot stand to see it again.
You really do reap what you sow!